Being an Overcomer..

Wow, it has been forever since I have blogged on here; but guess what?? It won’t be that long until I blog again.. LOLOL!!

So, yesterday I had every intention to blog about one of the most real, most controversial, most unexpected questions I have ever been asked on a radio interview I did years ago..

I started writing and had to save it because I am still on the campaign trail and had a million things to take care of; therefore, I decided to edit it and put it on the shelf so that I could add my pix as well as personal touch today so I could post it and get back to work but GoD had another plan for my message today!!

It is the message of watching one that I LoVe(d) dearly, suffer, almost die in the hands of her husband, overcome and get back to living L.I.F.E as if NOTHING ever tried to destroy her..

My disclaimer is the following: I will NOT share any names but this is ALL true accounts that I am sharing with you today..

Imagine, I was only 10, in the essence of my youth with the world so bright before mii; as I had my family and friends all around mii!! I studied hard as I was taught too, played games with neighborhood kids, attended dance classes and ultimately didn’t have much to worry about until she went and got married.. My best friend at the time, though she was much older than mii, ok about a dozen years or so but it didn’t matter because she told everyone that she was really my mother and we did everything together.. We laughed and joked as we were in and out of Fl., Haiti and New York City, yup, it was awesome that she came to live with us, her family!!

“Ki sa, ammmwwwaaayyyyy… Pou ki sa li fe sa mem?? Et ti moun yo?? Eske yo ok??”

What I have said was what I heard from the elders, as they were inundated with questions and fear as to their relatives safety as well as the safety of one child she held in her arms, that were so very fragile with blood pumping out of one, and the baby that was still nestled in her womb, with no knowledge of the pain her very own father was inflicting on her mother and possibly on her eldest sister…..

I sat in fear, wide – eyed, shaking and trying to fight back the tears that wanted to explode  from their dwelling, I had to be strong, I had to remain calm!! I had to fight the monster who was trying to kill the ones I loved so much.. But how could I do anything about the situation, by this point, I was only like 11 and had NO way of saving anyone because I couldn’t even save myself..

Would she be ok?? Would he go to jail?? How were the little ones?? Will I ever see them again?? How could this be happening?? We were always sooooooooo #Happy as a closed knit loving family??

Friends, the situation I am referring to is one of many that would occur between a very close relative of mine who chose to love and honor her abusive, alcoholic, vindictive husband whom she didn’t know of his nature prior to them saying their vows..

The Lord truly has an interesting way of bringing things to one’s remembrance as I forgot about the many years of the abuse that this person endured, until I saw him again, in a family photo with the same family he tried to kill 2 decades prior!! How could he stand there, smiling and taking pictures with them I thought?? Does he NOT have any shame?? Where is his sense of pride, surely he could have sent a check or bouquet of of flowers but Lord, he really showed up to his first borns graduation and he is acting like he did something, as if he contributed much more than his semen!!

I close here, I began to think of the things he did to my family, what he did to my non – existent LoVe L.I.F.E because every time I thought of the abuse, the drinking, the 911 calls, how he intimidated others with his education and power, I wanted to throw up; instead let mii tell you what GoD did…….

He showed mii how beautiful they were!!

GoD showed mii that they did endure hell on earth for many years but that NEVER broke her or the children, he could have accomplished his demented plan of killing them off but it didn’t happen for a reason that still boggles mii..

Less than 8 years later, the same one who almost died, called mii to tell mii that I was the Only Christian in the Family and I had to Pray for Sandy, my Beautiful Cousin who was shot in the head and was fighting for her L.I.F.E!!

Why was Sandy taken, yet she lived after receiving multiple stab wounds, being hospitalized and having to get more stitched than I could count??

Though I don’t know the reason, I know this….. As I looked at the picture again and again, I saw what determination looks like, I understood what being an overcomer truly means; furthermore, I realized that it doesn’t matter how many times he tried to take her {them} out.. What matters is that she and they are still standing..

Today, I can share this tid bit about mii and NOT cry my eyes out too and that is because I am also an OVERCOMER!! Though I was NOT almost killed by a man that was supposed to love mii and be there for mii for our eternities, I found a way to overcome the ones that appeared so kind and innocent and wait for what  was (is) truly mine to be..

Friends, rejoice when you too have OVERCOME.. I know I will NOW and forever more!!

To you, my family.. Congratulations again on your Victory!!

Yours Truly,

AniYa A.                                                         The one who watched for years

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“The Man Curse” by Raqiyah Mays

Do you think you are cursed in your love life? Or have you had some strange issues happen in your family and you’ve never been the same since? Well, stop everything and read the following:

The time has come and it is an absolute pleasure and honor to write this blog about none other than Ms. Raqiyah Mays who is doing so much and it is a blessing to know her. In the following you will see photos of this Leader from her latest photo shoot where she was one of the women selected for The Limited’s “The NEW Look of Leadership” campaign but also you will learn more about her NEW book which is hitting the world wide web on November 16th and you can support her by buying her book at the following: themancurse.com, barnesandnoble.com, amazon, ibooks, and at Google play.

WHAT IS THE MAN CURSE?
The Man Curse is a self-help fiction novel that explores the phenomenon of generational curses and cycles in families as told through the story of Meena Butler, a professional woman working to break the man curse and become the first woman in her family to marry. Is she cursed? Or is it all in her head?

When Raqiyah and I first met, she had just spoken to a group of women at a Domestic Violence event (it was one of the most amazing ones I have ever been too, there will be another one in May, if you would like more info or to be connected as a vendor, sponsor, to just attend etc. let me know and I will put you in contact with organizers) and that is where I learned of “The Man Curse” as well as her being a Leader for the campaign she is apart of now! What I admire the most about Ms. Mays, who happens to be WBLS‬ 107.5 FM Radio Personality, an Author, Journalist, and an Activist, is her boldness to share what is on her heart as well as on her mind. Friends, I have read the first few pages of her book and I am here to let you know I cannot wait until I get my hands and eyes on the rest of the book which comes out tomorrow!

Shortly after we met, she asked me if I could share my story in a tv interview that we would both take part in, I agreed that it was time to let people know that my favorite cousin, Sandy Jeanty, was murdered by her fiance’ over a decade ago and the pain is still deep, I say that to say, what is so different about Raqiyah is she is helping so many heal. She has taken parts of her story and life and turned it into a piece of literature that reaches the soul! I, for one, have seen so much D.V in and around my younger years growing whether it was via my aunt whom was stabbed by her spouse or again when my cousin was murdered by someone whom was supposed to love her, marry her and live happily ever after with her! To be honest friends, I almost gave up on love and have ran away from many men as I believed that I would be hurt, demonized or even killed. Today, I am taking control back and saying that though there may have been a Man Curse surrounding me and my family, I, you, we can overcome and be happy in love with whomever God has for us.

I close by sharing that I am finally able to open up about some of these deep seated issues I have hidden for many many years, people like Ms. Mays shares these messages in her work because she knows people like me and you need to be freed from these invisible chains of oppression which bound us for way too long! Friends, if you are in a Domestic Violence situation, whether it is verbal, physical (this one is HUGE), emotional, monetary (sometimes your abuser will hold funding and monies from you as a way to hold you as a prisoner), spiritual and more it’s time to GET OUT. I am speaking from experience and I will never forget one of the last phrases I utilized when finally speaking up about losing my own cousin at the aforementioned event, “Remember fam, you are NOT the only ones whom are affected when you are in these abusive situations as you have cousins, aunties, grandparents, uncles and friends whom love you very much besides your children and parents.”

Be safe, love yourselves, reach out to those who love you, or seek help from abuse centers which the police stations near you can escort you too and turn this thing around! Don’t forget to check out the following for ways you can hear Raqiyah Mays speak and see her LIVE.

If you are in these areas, please see the dates and plan on meeting Raqiyah Mays at one of these venues

If you are in these areas, please see the dates and plan on meeting Raqiyah Mays at one of these venues

“There hasn’t been an author in 20 years, since Terry McMillan, to fully express the experience of black women in love and romance. I believe Raqiyah Mays can fill that void with The Man Curse.”
*Karen Hunter, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, best-selling author, publisher, Sirius/XM host of “The Karen Hunter Show”

Raqiyah Mays was selected out of thousands of women to be one of the women chosen for The Limited's new campaign here in the Tri-State area, doesn't she look great??!!

Raqiyah Mays was selected out of thousands of women to be one of the women chosen for The Limited’s new campaign here in the Tri-State area, doesn’t she look great??!!

GoD Bless You ALL,

AniYa A.

Freedom Entertainment Group

President & CEO

Studying

Studying, Studying, Studying

This morning as I was preparing myself for a day which I knew I had so much to tackle, the word came and I couldn’t be more pleased.. See, when I have a lot on my mind, I sometimes zone out and daydream of a better world, a better place, a much better outcome!! I guess it started many years ago as a child and I recall getting in trouble in school especially because I was always zoning out and often times I believe that my teachers may have thought that I had an issue with attention or something like that..

Truth be told, I was frustrated with what was around me because I envisioned a better L.I.F.E, then confirmation came when I received a word from an older Jewish man whom shared that I would be somebody one day!! I will write out the entire scenario again and blog it, in the interim, I have the following that I had to share today..

See, Mr. A. told mii at the mere age of 12 maybe 13 that I would endure alot and I would be labeled as a “statistic” in the future and that I had the power within to overcome my trials and tribulations!! He also went on to say, if I educated myself and kept going forward NO matter what many doors would open and I would become whomever I wanted to be…….. By the time I was 15 my Guidance Counselor Mr. M. shared that I had enough high school credits to graduate by the time I was 16, but he gave mii the option of staying back and spending the year with my graduating class or going forward and skipping my Junior year of high school.. I thought about what that would mean and whether or NOT I had the ability to become someone, I stopped and wondered how I would be alone without any friends or relatives to make mii smile or piss mii off, I stopped for one more moment and recalled that I would be losing out on a whole lot because even at that age (15) I knew that opportunities did NOT come multiple times!! Though Mr. M. told mii to go home and think about my next step, I ran back to his office after taking a few steps into the hallway, headed towards the exit and said, “Please tell mii what I need to do to Graduate…..” The tears escaped their holding place and I recall my heart beating rather quickly as I made a decision that I could NOT take back!!

Today, I have gone through many ups and downs, I have had many strange battles to fight, I have been pushed to the max and back but friends, the thing I know to be true is if you are persistent you can and will make it!! The Word was soooooooooo powerful today that I couldn’t think about doing much more other than sharing it with you because NOT only have I studied to show myself approved (2 Timothy 2:15) but there are many of you who wonder whether studying, working hard, going forward towards the unknown is even worth it; I am here to share that it is.. Take a step in FAITH today (Hebrews 11:1, 1 Timothy 4:12, John 6:35), do what your heart tells you!!

I end here, I left the high school I was at only to return to the Christian private high school I had attempted to run away from a year or so earlier, under the teaching of a phenomenal teacher Mrs. S. who also happened to be a Pastors wife, I learned many lessons and though I had a long journey ahead of mii, I recalled certain Biblical principles she shared including but NOT limited to my favorite Bible verse, Ephesians 6: 10 – 20 and much more to this very day!!

Know this my friends and brethren, ALL is possible when you believe, I have a really impressive resume as I have accomplished many great things in my day, but I ask thee would I be able to share any of my accomplishments had I NOT Studied, Studied, Studied and also worked very hard……… Continue to follow your hearts, work hard and don’t forget to say a prayer or two every now and then..

Blessings to You ALL,

Your Sister in Christ